I make a conscious choice to see things positively. Even if there are some shit things going on in my life, or with the people around me, I choose to move forward with a positive framework. How we choose to live our lives is based on how we think and feel, and then act in response to those thoughts and feelings. The biggest lesson I have learnt from my foundation course over the past 6 months, is that our view of the world is just a projection of our mind. My yoga practise, if anything, has taught me that perception can be mastered and controlled.
The way we look at ourselves and the world around us is not affected by outside forces. It is our mind. The way we perceive things to be. We choose whether to see things positively or negatively. No one can control our thoughts. We may be swayed or manipulated but ultimately it is us who make the final decision to think one way or another. We have the power to act in ways that create positive energy. We just have to be willing to let go a little and accept what we have. To not put pressure on ourselves when things don’t always go according to plan.
This is not to say I am an idealist or out of touch with reality and the awful things happening; it is more that I choose not to let those situations affect me. I acknowledge what is going on, I am aware of how things affect my life; I reflect on those moments and choose to accept them and move forward. I choose to focus on things that make me happy, whilst knowing that not all may be great.
I will let those thoughts arise and sit with them for a while but I never let them consume me, or determine my outlook on life.
I don’t let those thoughts guide my decisions or choices in life.
The more we choose to see things negatively, the harder it is to see what amazing things are happening right now. We miss out on so much because we are either complaining about this or getting angry about that. Or worrying too much about doing/not doing something because we are afraid of what will/won’t happen.
I am a believer in what we get out of life is what we feel we deserve. If I feel I deserve the best then I will give to the universe what I want to receive in return. And if there there are things that I want to change, I channel my energy into positive actions. Such as undertaking a 60 hour foundation course in yoga because I wanted to enrich my life. If I am constantly putting out negative thoughts and actions then all I’ll receive in return is exactly that because I’m already in that frame of mind.
Now, please don’t mistake this for being inconsiderate of those who are truly struggling with awful things in their lives, or those who live with mental health issues. I have many friends who live with depression and anxiety and I know how hard and determined they are in their lives to move with a positive attitude. I have also known people close to me who have experienced awful things in their lives, but have chosen not to let those moments affect them in the long term. The video I have shared at the end of this post demonstrates, even though you can experience adversity in your life, you can choose how you want to live your life. You can make a conscious effort to find the joy and happiness you deserve. And you do!
What I am commenting more on, are those people you encounter in life that just seem to suck the joy out of anything you experience. Nothing seems good enough. There never seems to be a moment where they are just content about what they have. Fun suckers lets call them. The person that always comments on how rubbish they are feeling but continues to make bad health choices. Or the person that always sees the ‘bad’ weather as something to complain about. The person always complaining about traffic and public transport, and how they can never get to work on time. Someone who complains about being broke but spends like a drunken sailor. Someone who is always complaining about not feeling well. Someone who always finds something to bring you down about. Someone who will complain about not doing something they like, even though they are with friends and can’t seem to just let go and enjoy themselves. If it is something you can control, like how you react to different situations then make that choice to not let it affect you negatively. We all have moments where we have a little moan, but ultimately the more we choose to redirect our attention to something positive, the more we will begin to create positive habits in our life.
Bad public transport is always going to be bad. The British weather is never going to be amazing. Yes we have a lot of taxes to pay. These things are not what’s important. Let’s build our mini bridges to get over those small life wobbles. I have a friend who recently wrote that life is too short to worry about silly things, and if we want to do something that brings us joy, then go ahead and just do it. Such a great message! Do the things that make you happy. The things that encourage you to view your life as more than a series of complaints and moans. If we are in a situation that truly brings us no joy, or happiness then why continue to feed that cycle.
Do something to change that. If you are in job that brings you no satisfaction think about why that is. What do you want out of a job? What are you values? It could be money, success, feeling appreciated, being in a team etc. The same goes for being in a relationship whether it is friendship or romantic. You can apply this idea to all aspects of your life. Take some time to think about what is dear to you. The values that warm your heart and soul. Put aside those niggly life hardships and focus on what brings you joy.
Ellen Degeneres recently said that the three most important things to her and what she wants out of life is respect, love and kindness. What wonderful values to uphold. The more I grow and think about what my life values are the more I know it has to do with love, kindness and compassion. To try and not let the small stuff irritate me.
So bringing us back to my original thoughts, having a positive framework and attitude towards life, is not about forgetting the negative things. It is about accepting what is happening in your life and finding a way to move forward with a positive mindset.
As mentioned above, I leave you with a video of a truly inspirational young man, who had a vision of what brings him joy and how he bought that to fruition. He made a list of all the things which make him happy in life, and to show us even through tough times, how important it is to focus on the stuff that makes us happy.